Okay, so I've been thinking a lot about Remus and Tonks. I posted yesterday about how Remus is a bit of a Dirty Middleaged Professor type.

I want to talk about Tonks. Tonks is a bit obsessed with Remus, isn't she? She never got over the infatuation stage. She has the infinite hope and tenacity of a young person in love. Remus, who has given up all hope for years, doesn't believe in love, but she, almost as irrationally, can't let go of it. She's also turned totally upside down by her love affair with Remus, in a very early-twenties way.

Evidence of total and slightly unsettling obsession:

* It's all about Remus: her Patronus (fundamental indicator of personality) changes to a symbol of him.
* She loses who she is, and is unable to morph when rejected by him. The strength, vitality, and fun seems sucked right out of her.
* The morphing seems to come right back after he accepts her love (in the form of marrying her, which can't have happened more than a month or so after the HBP Battle of Hogwarts). In fact, after she seems to have bounced right back entirely--nearly deliriously happy just to have him there, though he's clearly been grumping around and acting depressed and distant. She doesn't even seem to notice this. *deniiiiiial*
* Remus leaves her safe at home with Teddy during the final battle, but she leaves Teddy with Andromeda and goes after him. People have struggled with the idea that she left her baby alone, but then always say, "Well, she was an Auror, a fighter, and she just had to defend what she believed in, yada yada," but I don't think that was it. She didn't come to Hogwarts to fight. She comes to Hogwarts looking for Remus, and that idea never seems to leave the very forefront of her mind. "Have you seen Remus?" she asks everyone, and runs off immediately in the direction she's pointed, regardless of what's going on. Tonks is there because she couldn't stand being at home, thinking Remus was about to die, and that she wouldn't ever see him again.

Anyway, the point is that Tonks is CRAZAY in love, and not necessarily in the good way. But you'd need to be CRAZAY in love to stay in love with Remus, 'cause that guy was even more fucked up than we realised, though it was all there in PoA--I just didn't see it. More on the fuckedupedness of Remus later.